The Love Doctor

  Dear Love Doctor,

I have a question for you about being gay. I am in my teens and I had several intimate encounters with other boys my age. We didn't have sex, but I did perform oral sex on them. While I was doing that, they obviously enjoyed it, what with their moaning and pulling my head down on their junk. In high school this happened several times... my favourite place was under the outdoor bleachers. Sometimes I did this with the same guy more than once... what I don't understand is that some of these boys would pick on me after the fact... like calling me a fag in front of the other students. So obviously these boys I was with talked about the encounter with their friends. Why would they get me to do that to them if they are going to turn around and bully me? I mean, like I said, they enjoyed what we did at the time! They also stopped abruptly saying that they weren't gay so why did I make them do this act? What? They came to me. Needless to say my high school years were fraught with the pain of being bullied for being gay. I wasn't even out to myself during high school. I just knew I liked boys. What's up with them totally enjoying what I did then an about face where I was chastised for it. I mean it takes two to tango. And sometimes they would approach me in the hall asking to meet up again under the bleachers. One minute I am pleasuring them and the next they bully me. WTF?


Signed,

Under the bleachers

Dear bleachers,

I think what they experienced was guilt for enjoying what you did together. Some of them were obviously not comfortable with their sexuality and are trying to deny being gay after the fact. They are mean and shouldn't do that to you considering the sex you had was consensual. Just because they are not comfortable with what they did, does not give them the right to bully you. You also cannot assume just because you gave him (or them) oral sex, doesn't mean they aren't heterosexual. It may actually be a power trip, showing that they can control you and take advantage of your willingness to please them. I guess I will just say, people are strange and as long as you aren't getting in harms way and you enjoy it, maybe you should just chalk it up to them being assholes. You don't say if you are still doing this service for them.. If so, good luck under the bleachers!

The Love Doctor

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