The Love Doctor

Dear Love Doctor,

My brother is gay. A few weeks ago he said he wants to bring his boyfriend to my wedding. No one in our family knows he's gay except me. With a heavy heart I asked him to come alone. Was that the correct decision or am I the a-hole? Or is he for wanting to steal the attention on mine and my fiancees big day?

Signed,

He’s my bro, man

Dear Bro

This is a big deal in 2 ways. First one that comes to mind is WHY he wants to choose that day to come out to family? Is he hoping to deflect the coming out because it would be socially unacceptable for family to make a fuss about his bombshell on your wedding day? Secondly, Why do you think that your family would have a problem with him being gay? I suspect a few homophobes there. That said, If you take my advice and tell him he must come alone OR have him bring his boyfriend but be 100% platonic while at the wedding. Yes, some of the family may think its weird for two guys to arrive together, but also this would introduce your family to your brother's boyfriend without all the drama of a coming out. There are far better occasions to come out to family, your wedding is not one of them. So I believe you are correct in him coming alone - but please think about having them both come while acting platonic. Perhaps some will gossip, but they won't know for sure, and you can as well as your brother have a great time at your wedding. Here's to hoping it's a grand occasion!


Hope this helps,

The Love Doctor

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