The Love Doctor

Dear Love Doctor,

Hi there, maybe it’s the years of anxiety and shame caused by homophobic family but I’m really concerned after my first time. My stupid horny self decided it was a good idea to see what all the fuss Grindr was all about and yada yada yada some dude validated me into sex. I decided to try bottoming, oral, he seemed clearly very experienced. I was already tested (for everything, idk why) and made sure he used a condom but when I asked him about if he ever was he just said “your probably good”. Which sent my brain into panic mode after he left. My question is: should I be concerned over catching HIV or any other stds from this experience? I’m an anxious person so maybe I’m overthinking and worrying but if anyone really thinks it’s possible... god I just need advice... I’m a mess..

Signed,

On the STD roller coaster

Dear Coaster,

You certainly seem anxious... I'm not entirely sure what you mean with 'more experienced'...

You say that you bottomed out, that is the bit where you are most vulnerable to an HIV infection. Oral has significantly lower risk, especially with a condom. So yes, you might be infected. I suspect the chance is fairly low, but you might be infected. Only way to be sure is to have your blood tested.

Also, if you wish to engage in sex in the future, especially if you are so anxious about these things, make sure your 'partner' has proof of health.

Good luck!


Hope this helps,

The Love Doctor

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