The Love Doctor

Dear Love Doctor,

I enjoy your column very much and have a question.

A few months ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of two years. It was very painful for me, but I am much better now. The problem is that we live in a small community of around 25,000, so sometimes I do see him around town. He is very rude to me and unfriendly.

I get the feeling that he wished I would move somewhere else, but I love living here, and will not and can not move for his convenience.

How can I handle running into him when he is so rude? It would be so much better if he was at least civil.


Signed,

Ex-Hex

Dear Hexed,

There are three solutions to this problem.

One: Speak to him in private about the hostility between the two of you, and find out what it would take to resolve it.

Two: What does he think you did to him to create so much anger in him? If you can figure that out and genuinely apologize for your part, you may be able to stop the hostility.

Three: Let go of your anger towards him. That way, even if he is acting out around you, it will not bother you as much. When he stops getting the reaction from you that he is looking for, he will stop acting out.


The Love Doctor

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