The Love Doctor

Dear Love Doctor,

I am at wits end. My partner never seems to want to have sex with me and when he does, it's just a wham bam thankyou mam thing. I feel he is cheating on me. How do I know if he's muff diving some other bitch?

Signed,

His Cheatin' Heart

Dear Heart,

There are many men out there who will cheat on their spouse, should someone exciting come along. I will tell you some signs but first I want to ask you some questions. They are rhetorical. Have you both gotten bored of each other? Do you dress up for dates? Do you go on any dates? Have you tried role playing in and out of the bedroom? I find it rare that only one spouse is unhappy with their relationship... You BOTH have to work together to keep it interesting. But as I said, here are some signs he may be cheating on you:

• The following behaviors may indicate that a spouse has feelings for you, but is also in love with someone else.
  
  
• Drastic mood swings and may seem emotionally unstable
  
  
• Partner seems distracted, confused, detached, or distant
  
  
• Alternates between sexual interest and lack of interest
  
  
• Sex may be much more emotional
  
  
• May suggest new things sexually then loss interest
  
  
• Exaggerated displays of affection and love followed by quiet periods
  
  
• Overly affectionate and passionate at times
  
  
• Increased expressions of love
  
  
• Sudden changes in clothing, appearance, or interest in getting in shape
  
  
• Sudden change in habits, hobbies, or schedules
  
  
• Increased reference or talking about the third party
  
  
• Unusual phone activity or text messaging
  
  
• Suddenly keeps cell phone away from you
  
  
• Essentially, a spouse or partner who acts like this may be in love with two people and very confused about what to do.

Good luck and remember it takes two to tango, make sure you are one of those!

Hope this helps,

The Love Doctor

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