The Love Doctor

 Dear Love Doctor,

I've been in a gay relationship for about a month now with a very close friend now and things are going great!

We haven't fooled around much, if you know what I mean. I am very nervous about my first time and want it to be unforgettable for both of us.

My questions are:

1 - What items would you recommend for our first time? What would you like to be surprised with ? Candles? Silk Sheets?

 2 - Best way to make our experience together easy and fun?

 3 - General tips, advice, words of wisdom on the matter?

4 - Do we have to have anal sex? Or is oral sex what most gay guys do?

On a personal note, I do plan on using a condom and lube.


Signed,

Extra Virgin Olive Oil

Dear Oil,

I'm not sure what you have in mind. The first time my ex and I had sex we just did oral and 69 and some hand job stuff. But we basically spent two days in bed. And of course a lot of making out and talking. We had anal a a week later, but he brought it up and said he wanted me to top. And I was fine with that arrangement. You don't have to go out of your way to set the scene, he will just be happy to have you naked in his bed. But candles can be a nice touch. Don't be embarrassed about any of this. If you are self conscious and inhibited it will ruin it. Communicate what you want from him. Listen to want he wants from you. Other than that, just go slow, spend some time on foreplay and don't just rush to the climax. Good luck.

The Love Doctor

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