The Love Doctor

Dear Love Doctor,

I have been with this guy for 4 years and I want out - AGAIN! It just seems that no matter how hard I try I get stuck with a man of my nightmares rather than the one of my dreams. Any advice?

Signed,

Stuck in a relationship I don't want

Dear Stuck,

I don't have any personal advice on this one as I am a gay man after all, so we guys always get along! But according to Relationship Advice--Top 5 Tips By Lisa Angelettie M.S.W from girlshrink.com....

1. Pick a partner that if stripped of everything materialistic (bank account, clothing, car, home etc.), you would still find interesting, funny, and attractive.

2. Find at least one thing you have in common with your partner and do whatever that is on a regular basis. No matter if you get that dream 60-hour work week job. No matter if you have 5 children! No matter if you had a huge fight last night. Do it.

3. If you have to go to bed angry at your partner, at least discuss that anger in a decible level lower than screaming before you do. Both parties should have a clear understanding of each person's side of the story whether they agree with that side or not.

4. Build trust. Do not require titles or labels until both parties feel you must define your relationship. Do not demand a total itinerary of the other person's day/night. Do not snoop. Do not play games.

5. Do not stay in a bad relationship for the wrong reasons. It only prolongs the inevitable. Examples: Length of time together, children, fear of the unknown, pity, waiting for other person to change etc.

This concludes the relationship advice tip list by GirlShrink.com All these tips are based in a core element of all relationships--communication. Much success in applying this relationship advice to your life.


The Love Doctor