The Love Doctor

Dear Love Doctor,

My boyfriend has gone crazy. For Christmas a friend gave us a camera for our computer. It was a wonderful thought. My parents live halfway across the country, and we have used it to keep in touch with them. They went out and got a camera of their own, and now we can see each other as we chat.

But, now, I'm beginning to think the whole thing may have been a mistake. A couple of days ago, I came home to find Buddy naked, in front of the camera, showing off with someone he had met on the web.

I wasn't overly upset that he was showing off, we have a pretty open relationship. But, Uncle, on the web?

We talked about it later and he said he really gets turned on being watched. Now, he wants us to have sex together on the web and maybe set up a website.

Buddy is really good-looking. He's 26, tall dark and muscular. But, this camera thing is beginning to freak me out. He is spending all of his time naked in front of it. A lot of the time he is just taking still pictures of himself and saving them on our computer.

He says he wants me to use it like a still camera and tell him what to do. He says it's a major turn on.

I think I've got to put the brakes on this thing, is it normal for a guy to want to be seen naked by all sorts of people?


Signed,

Shutter-Bugged

Dear Bugged,

He's turned into an exhibitionist! And, he's not alone. The web has spawned millions of guys just like him.

One thing you did not say in your letter is how you feel about taking private pictures of him, just for yourselves. Believe me, it can be it's own turn on.

I know someone who had a boyfriend once who was just like Buddy. He had a Polaroid camera and he just loved having his picture taken. What his partner discovered was that he loved taking the shots as much as he loved modeling for him.

They had incredible sex afterwards. (or so they said...)

As for the website, well, you probably made the right decision. There is a lot of money to be made from these home porno sites, but, the downside is that you can be seen by anyone and everyone. Sometimes those pictures can come back and bite you on the ass.

Have fun with your cam, and don't read too much into his behavior, unless he starts running around the streets naked.

The Love Doctor

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